"Focus on your possessions"
10th June, 2012
How many of us, guys, always think they do not have enough clothes in their closet?
On the other hand, how many of us, almost unconsciously, end up wearing always the same clothes in a way or another at the end?
You won’t believe it, but the two things I named above do not contradict each other.
Let’s start with the first point.I always thought I did not have enough clothes to wear. Hence, the need of buying something new at least once per month.
Either a shirt, or a pair of trousers, or a fancy jacket.
The thing is also, when we go shopping, we go for one thing, we end up generally buying ten more (and maybe not the garment we originally went for).
But let’s discuss this point in another post.
For now, let’s focus on the first factor every guy with some general sense of fashion thinks of himself on an almost daily basis: "S**t, I do not have enough clothes".
So, in the morning, while I got dressed, until few years ago, my first thought was related to the fact I needed a different item to change my look slightly. To make it more interesting.
I was wearing a pair of blue denim, I would have needed another white shirt to go with it, different from the one I currently had in my hands. Something with a more stable collar, able to go under the nice grey jacket I had in mind since I got up from bed.
Now, this is not the end of the world, we know that.
But for me, really wanting to be cool that morning, maybe because I knew I would have met some interesting colleagues on my way to the office or I would have had a meeting with some people from the top management, that “missing” item could make me think again my whole style for the day.
And because of this, here it comes: the second factor I mentioned at the beginning of this post.
Since I do not have that specific item, let me change my look for today.
Let me go with something I tried before, maybe a couple of months earlier, which I know was a complete knock-out for the people around me.
Maybe because I remember everyone complimenting me on the washing of that particular denim or on the great fit of that Dolce&Gabbana shirt.
So what do I do? I end up probably wearing what I have been wearing more or less ten times already during this last month.
Maybe in other occasions, so outside of office hours, and possibly and luckily I have been washing the whole look often and so it is fresh and ready to be worn again.
But still, even if unconsciously I did not realise it at first, I was wearing the same clothes, again and again, with the illusion that they were so cool and fitting me so well that I would have won the crowd again.
So you see... Me, together with 90% of my male friends, tend to think we have not enough clothes in our wardrobe, but at the same time we feel comfortable in wearing almost always the same garments.
Thank God, “few” years ago, I realised that and I decided to get my mind clear. During a cold winter afternoon, I decided to open all my wardrobes (yes, unfortunately I have different ones...) and solve this dilemma once and for all.
And that is exactly when I realise THE principle: I thought I did not have enough clothes and I ended up wearing almost always the same items because, in reality, I did not know WHAT I had in my wardrobe.
I mean, I knew what I had, but I DID NOT KNOW what I really had.
I did not really know how many pair of trousers and in which colours I had.
I did not know how many white shirts I had.
I could not remember how many different jackets I had and how they could be paired with some of my trousers and shirts.
And the reason why I did not know that was because I could NOT SEE all of them.
I had to focus on my possessions and the only way to do that was to take out from the wardrobe(s) all my clothes, dividing them by category and colour, and re-assorting them inside the wardrobe in a different and tidier order.
It was a massive job, but it took me only one afternoon (so less than I really thought at the beginning).
And the result was that from then on, I could easily find what I wanted and match it with what I thought was more appropriate.
How did I do it?
Well, this is the main subject of the next post...